[Testimonial] Child Anxiety Symptoms Treatment Malaysia - Low JS Case

Name: Low JS

Age: 4

Town: Seremban

Intervention: Sleep Talk Process, Clinical Neurofeedback, Nutritional Consultation

JS has developed the issue of anxiety, poor socializing and logical thinking skills before 4 years old. We decided to bring him for the neurofeedback training in order to tackle such issues. We are very pleased and happy about that JS’s condition has shown improvement throughout the training sessions. For an instance, JS has become calmer and his fear of loud noise such as thunderstorm was reduced significantly after participating for 30 sessions of neurofeedback training. Moreover, the diet control and the nutritional suggestions provided by the professional nutritional consultant in the centre also accounted for JS’s improvement throughout the therapy periods.

Nowadays, JS is capable to make friends and get along well with his peers. Besides, he has become more cheerful than before. Nonetheless, there is still space for the improvement on his social skills as well as his executive functioning capability. As for now, we are glad to see the improvement on JS’s condition and we do believe in the effectiveness of neurofeedback as well as nutritional control in treating the anxiety symptoms.

Accredited Goulding SleepTalk Method Consultant Malaysia - Hiro Koo 潜意识教育法官方认证咨询师

Accreditation: https://gouldingconsultants.com/hiro-koo/?affcode=HiroKoo

Sleep Talk Method for Children is a process that only takes two minutes of your time and lasts a lifetime for your child. It is a process that is easy to learn and it is a gift to give when your child is in a light sleep. The process is safe, ethical and positive. It builds on the underlying self-esteem of the child resulting in behaviour changes and the process is non-intrusive.

Once you learned the skill and practice it on your child continuously, your child will have more emotional confidence, resilience against negative suggestions and will be happier thus leading to happier families.

Contact us via 0167154419 (whatsapp) now to know more about how to learn the Goulding Sleep Talk Method technique.

潜意识教育法 – 古尔丁“与孩子在睡眠中谈话”Goulding Sleep Talk Method for Children – 会发展您的孩子的灵魂和情感力量，是一种非常简单，也是很容易被掌握的技巧，只要您能在每个夜晚抽出几分钟时间，您用心地去做，您会看到奇迹发生在你的孩 子身上。

What Professionals Say

“Children deal with trauma in a different way to adults, often not able to express what they are feeling as a result of any trauma. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is one of the most debilitating anxiety disorders, creating a number of behavioural and emotional changes in children that, if not treated properly, stay with the child for the rest of his or her life. PTSD is formed when the unconscious mind is involved in death, disaster, rape or early physical danger. SleepTalk® has been shown to be one of the most effective ways of treating such traumas in children, bypassing the normal communication methods and allowing the unconscious to let go of the intrusive thoughts, flashbacks and anger associated with such memories.

Using strategies that the unconscious understands, SleepTalk® forms a direct path to the parts of the memory holding high levels of anxiety and distress, encouraging the mind to reframe the original event and strengthening the self-image and an awareness of safety. With the parents involved in the process that awareness of safety is enhanced. I highly recommend SleepTalk® for all anxiety disorders in children.”

Gary Johnston. Psychotherapist and Clinical Hypnotherapist.
Specialist in Trauma and PTSD

“I am a qualified medical practitioner and psychiatrist. I have used the technique of SleepTalk® for many years. “SleepTalk® is a safe, effective and a very valuable process. I have found it useful in my clinical practice and recommend it highly.”

Dr. Eileen Feeney, MB, BCh, BAO, DCH, FRANZCP
Registered MD and Psychiatrist

“SleepTalk® is a sensible practical and easy-to-follow method of communication important messages to the subconscious mind. This process should be used by all parents, educators and health professionals and the practice adopted in the management of all disorders in which the mind plays a significant role.”

Professor Ian Brighthope, MBBS, Dip Ag Sci, FACNEM, FASEM, MAIAST
Fellow of Australasian College of Nutritional
and Environmental Medicine

“By hearing enough examples of positive and effective thoughts, delivered by a person with whom the child enjoys a close and loving relationship, the child can eventually discard negative feelings and self-defeating statements and replace them with powerful and useful ones. In this sense SleepTalk® shares many parallels with a well recognised psychological I therapeutic approach known as self-instruction or self-verbalisation.”

Alex Bartsch, BA (Hons) Psychology
Director, Zenith Professional Development
(Corporate psychology consultant 
and former Victoria Police Homicide Squad Detective)

Cherie de Hass lectures both here in Australia, Asia and Europe and contributes to many magazines, writes articles on herbs and well-being, has a busy practice in Melbourne and is now treating the fourth generation of many of her patients.

She states: “I have used the Goulding process for over thirty five years. This is not a therapy and does not involve taking medications – just a commonsense approach to parenting. My daughter Monique, whose formative years, benefited greatly with SleepTalk®, giving her self-confidence, security and love. Monique now uses this incredible therapy on her own children with wonderful results.  One day when discussing her childhood and SleepTalk®, she told me when she was a little girl, she would sometimes hear me come into her room and would pretend to be asleep, because she loved hearing me tell her all those positive things that made her feel, peaceful, happy, loved and very safe!

Now three generations, and thirty five years later, I know my grandchildren will continue using this miraculous process to help them achieve their goals and aspirations, to teach others how a happy and healthy mind can help overcome many of life’s obstacles that maybe thrown our way.

SleepTalk® is one of the most valuable and credible processes that I have encountered in over thirty five years, and is suitable for children of all ages and stages of development.”

Cherie de Hass,
Fellow, Australian Natural Therapies Association
 Former Presenter: Healthy Wealthy and Wise
Naturopath, Author and Media Writer

“SleepTalk® is an invaluable aid for families and therapists in improving family attitudes and intimacy, the program is easily and unobtrusively implemented and can be readily adapted to suit all children and family contexts.”

Dr. Janet Hall, MAPsS
Clinical and Counselling Psychologist

“SleepTalk® is positive, natural, non-invasive and non-harmful treatment regime, the benefits of which can literally last forever. There is no doubt that the time is now right for the benefits of the Goulding SleepTalk® process to be disseminated more widely among healthcare professionals and the general community. I wholeheartedly support Joane’s effort to make SleepTalk® more widely known.”

Jeff Berger, BA (Psych), BTH, Grad Dip.
Counselling Psychologist

What parents say

“My children have become calm again and the household is happier, thank you for giving me back my child.”

“I have been presenting the SleepTalk® with my son who is 9 yrs of age for 6 months and I have a new boy! He’s back to being my loving, caring and helpful son who has found his self-esteem and self-worth again. I am so proud of him and a huge believer in the SleepTalk® miracle. It is amasing. Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou!!!”

“Initially I didn’t think SleepTalk® would have the potential to work on my 3 year old daughter; however after trying the technique I found my 3 year old to be calmer and more settled with her bedtime routine. The SleepTalk® process was very easy to follow and manage. It has been a worthwhile contribution to my daughter’s very healthy sleeping routine.”

“Since starting the SleepTalk® process, the whole family has noticed an improvement in my son’s behaviour. It is hard to believe that with so little time and effort our daily lives have improved so much. My son is a much calmer boy now and has less tantrums, in fact it is now a rare occurrence that we have to send him to his room for time out (it used to be a couple of times a day at weekends). It is also a lovely time for me to go into his room at night and whisper to him which is a nice end to the day regardless of it being a good day or not. He is definitely waking up ‘bright and happy’ these days – we love it!”

“We have been continuing doing our SleepTalk® and have observed some pretty great developments with ‘N’ which are more obvious since his return to school. He seems to have acquired a whole new work ethic and is participating in school work activities and seems to be generalizing this knowledge outside of his school environment and is even doing some academic work ‘just for fun’! Oh My Goodness, I am so very thrilled about this!!”

What children say

“The fairies talk to me at night and they tell me they love me. They sound just like my Mum”

“I know you love me because you tell me so at night Daddy”

“Mum will you say those nice things to me again tonight”?

Source:

https://gouldingconsultants.com/hiro-koo/?affcode=HiroKoo

The 3 Types of Children Who Bully Their Parents

All children have unique personalities and temperaments, but kids who bully their parents have very particular traits, and three most prevalent styles:

1. The Defiant Bully

• Is your kid always opposing you?
• Does your kid blackmail you?
• Are you afraid of your kid’s anger?

The most challenging of the bullying personality types, these in-your-face kids are exceedingly confrontational and oppositional. If you say, "Go right,” they will go left. If you say, "Sit still,” they will run. Impulsive, impatient, and reckless, defiant bullies want to live on their own terms. They reject every attempt parents make to manage their behavior. If you’re a single parent, defiant kids can be particularly aggressive: With only one parent to focus on, you’re likely to get a double-dose of defiance.

Self-righteous and puffed up with false confidence, such kids delight in debate—and are determined to win every argument. For them, being “right” takes priority over being respectful or getting along. When you try to stand up to their bullying, they may turn obsessive and harass you until you give in. Determined to get their way, they’ll stop at nothing.

Good News and Bad News

Defiance is not necessarily a problematic trait. Many artists, inventors, designers, and original thinkers have a healthy defiant streak. They pioneer new ways of thinking because they oppose conventions. They use their defiance as a creative force for inspiration and vision. In other words, when defiance is fused with ambition and channeled into creativity, it is progressive. Defiant kids have a lot of unbridled and unfocused energy. The challenge is to help them channel it into a positive outlet.

But in fact, every well-adjusted kid has a healthy dose of defiance. If children are too cooperative or accommodating, they lack definition and leave no lasting imprint on others. You don’t want your kid to agree with you all the time. You want her to have her own opinions and views.

Now here’s the bad news about defiance: It takes a lot of effort to help a kid with a defiant bullying style see any relationship as a two-way street—and the longer the pattern has been in place, the more difficult it is to reverse. It takes energy and commitment to help a defiant kid break old habits and foster new ones.

What Drives the Defiant Kid?

Underneath the bravado of defiance is a kid who, for some reason, feels unrecognized and undervalued. She lives with a fear of others forgetting her or leaving her out. No matter how much attention she gets, positive or negative, it’s rarely enough.

You’d never know how vulnerable defiant kids feel because they conceal their insecurities so well. And yet ultimately, defiance is a form of dependency. Here’s why: In order to feel whole, defiant kids must have something to defy. Pushing against someone or something gives them a false sense of strength. For example, imagine a kid leaning against a wall. He may appear secure but what happens when you take the wall away? He falls down. Defiance works in the same way: Without someone or something to defy, defiant kids can’t keep their stance.

What do defiant kids gain from their defiance? Defiance forms a protective barrier against interpersonal insecurities, providing a temporary identity for kids who feel uncertain about their individuality. Kids with a defiant bullying style are easily misinterpreted: Their defiance creates the illusion that they are strong and secure, when actually it’s just the opposite. Spend enough time with defiant kids and you’ll sense their insecurities just below the surface.

2. The Anxious Bully

• Is your kid continually on the verge of a breakdown?
• Does she need constant comforting and reassuring?
• Are his angst-filled monologues wearing you down?

Anxious children tend to oscillate between clinging to their parents and pushing them away. Of course, it’s natural for kids to turn to their parents for comfort, but an anxious kid’s fretfulness is exhausting. Anxious children have little or no self-soothing skills. The moment they feel threatened or frightened, they run to their parents for reassurance. Once they receive comfort, they reject their parents again—and so the cycle repeats itself.

In their heart, anxious kids don’t want to be dependent on their parents, but they can’t break free of their reliance on them. They appear less outwardly aggressive than defiant kids, but their bullying—powered by constant neediness—is no less intense. Here’s the worst part: If anxious kids don’t learn to be self-reliant, their parents will become enablers. When this happens, the kids rarely leave home or find their own way in the world: Lovethat enables ultimately disempowers.

Good News and Bad News

The good news: Unlike defiant kids who outwardly rebel, anxious kids are too fearful to put themselves in dangerous situations, so they rarely engage in risky behaviors. Parents are more likely to beg them to leave their rooms and venture out into the world. But the more parents try to push them out the door, the more anxious kids will dig in. Hunkering down in a bedroom is far more satisfying than the unknowns that lie beyond it. For anxious kids, the familiar always wins over the unknown.

The bad news: Anxious children have trouble growing up. Anything chancy, anything that involves risk, increases their anxiety. As a result, they miss out on many opportunities for growth.

What Drives the Anxious Kid to Bully?

Parents of anxious kids often wonder:

• as my kid born anxious?​
• Am I doing something wrong?
• Is something that I don’t know about causing him anxiety?

These are great questions, but rather than getting caught in the old dilemma of nature vs.nurture, consider nature and nurture to get a clear diagnostic picture. For example, let’s consider your child’s age, temperament, and family history:

• Is there a history of anxiety in your family?
• Have you had difficulties with anxiety?
• Has your kid always been anxious, or did it come on suddenly?

If your family has a history of anxiety, it’s more likely that your child inherited this trait. Also keep in mind that anxiety is contagious: Parents who are anxious, or families that are filled with conflict and angst, are more likely to produce anxious children.

But even if your child seems wired for anxiety, there are plenty of things you can do to break the cycle. First, let’s look for changes in his or her environment that could be generating anxiety:

• Have there been any modifications in family routines, such as moving, changing schools, or starting a new class?
• Are your child’s social insecurities ongoing or recent?
• Did he or she experience a traumatic event?

Sudden changes in mood or temperament usually have clear precipitating events, which are easy to spot and typically affect the whole family. Developmental shifts, however, many will overlook: For example, it’s common for many kids to develop off-the-wall anxiety as they enter adolescence. This stage, with its surge of hormones, massive psychological shifts, and physiological maturation triggers enormous insecurities in preteens and teens. Many kids who were calm, cool, and collected in elementary school suddenly turn turbulent in middle and high school. We refer to these responses to adolescence asnormative developmental crises.

3. The Manipulative Bully

• Is your kid an excellent liar?
• Does he know how to exploit your fears?
• Are you blackmailed with threats of self-harm?

If you suffer fears and insecurities about your parenting, it won’t take long for a manipulative bullying child to home in on them, particularly if you are an anxious or guiltyparent. Phony illness or injuries, elaborate plots, extortion, blackmail—these are the tools that the manipulative bully uses to extort his wants and needs from his parents by preying on their anxieties and generating self-doubt.

This can make the manipulative bully sound like a monster, destined to ruin a family. Of course, that’s not true: Just as with the defiant and anxious bullying styles, the manipulative bully is trying to manage his fears and insecurities, in this case by controlling his environment and everyone in it. Getting to the root of his fears, and helping him put them into words, is key to helping a manipulative bully develop better ways of relating.

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From Conflict to Cooperation

Naturally, children’s personalities are too complex to fit into such tidy little categories. The bullying styles discussed here offer a lens through which to view your own child’s behavior. With a clearer understanding of his or her bullying style, you will gain a deeper understanding of the child's inner life and be better prepared to steer your relationship in a new direction. Keep in mind that beneath the tough exterior of every bully is a scared child, constantly wrestling with insecurities and worries. Bullying is an expression of this internal unrest. By understanding what makes your bully tick, you will gain insight into the nature of her fears, better understand the forces that fuel her bullying, and become poised to take action to restore balance.

Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/when-kids-call-the-shots/201604/the-3-types-children-who-bully-their-parents?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Keeping Emotions in Check With Neurofeedback

Difficulty handling emotions and keeping them under control can cause various psychological issues, and may even lead to full-blown psychiatric problems. This is especially true in childhood. Trauma experienced in youth can contribute to later problems such as depression and anxiety. There are various techniques for helping people control their emotions. One of these is neurofeedback; a training method in which information about changes in an individual’s neural activity is provided to the individual in real-time. This enables the individual to self-regulate thier neural activity and produces changes in behaviour. While already in use as a treatment tool for adults, this method has not been used on young people until now. Researchers believe neurofeedback could help younger people by providing more efficient control of their emotions.

The new study used real time fMRI-based neurofeedback on a sample of kids. “We worked with subjects between the ages of 7 and 16,” explains SISSA researcher and one of the authors of the study, Moses Sokunbi. “They observed emotionally- charged images while we monitored their brain activity, before ‘returning’ it back to them.” The region of the brain studied was the insula, which is in the cerebral cortex.

The young participants could see the level of activation in the insula on a “thermometer” presented on the MRI projector screen. They were instructed to reduce or increase activation with cognitive strategies while verifying the effects on the thermometer. All of them learned how to increase insula activity, although decreasing was more difficult. Specific analysis techniques made it possible to reconstruct the complete network of the areas involved in regulating emotions (besides the insula) and the internal flow of activation. The researchers observed that the direction of flow when activity was increased reversed when decreased.

“These results show that the effect of neurofeedback went beyond the superficial- simple activation of the insula- by influencing the entire network that regulates emotions,” explains Kathrine Cohen Kadosh, Oxford University researcher and first author of the study. “They demonstrate that neurofeedback is a methodology that can be used successfully with young people.”

“Childhood and adolescence is an extremely important time for young people’s emotional development,” says Jennifer Lau, from the Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology & Neuroscience at King’s College London, who has taken part in the study. “Therefore, the ability to shape brain networks associated with the regulation of emotions could be crucial for preventing future mental health problems, which are known to arise during this vital period when the brain’s emotional capacity is still developing.”

Source:

http://neurosciencenews.com/emotion-psychology-neurofeedback-3201/